4 am, and I'm still up and at the office.
Talking to a friend, I learned that he's never worn a condom. Doesn't even know how to put one on. Apparently, before he scrumps a new girl, they both go get tested, and the responsibility for the birth control rests squarely on her shoulders. Not necesarily financially, he's willing to help pay for it, but as for being on the pill, taking the pill, etc...
"if she gets pregnant, shes in deep shit, cuz she said she was on the pill"
Upon further inquiry, I learned that "I probably would actually take the kid. I love kids" and that if she didn't want to or couldn't have the baby at all, "then its her call...I dont have much say."
Now, I admire taking the responsibility to question the sexual history and then go get tested before every sexual partner, but it seems to me that testing is the sort of thing to do once in a committed, stable, monagamous relationship, and not a short-term fling. And only using one method of BC before that level is foolhardy enough, without allowing for relationship problems to settle before the risk of pregnancy. He claims the girl never asked him to wear one, which makes me wonder about the caliber of girl he's slept with and the willingness of the girl to make him shoulder some more of the contraceptive responsibility. I'm all for women taking control of their reproductive rights, but 6 girls in a row not asking him to wear one or double with another method? I'd like to slap some sense into them all, since the pill's only 96% effective. Coupling it with any other method of contraception makes pregnancy a very low possiblity. Also, some STD's don't show up right away, so if one switches partners quickly, infection may occur anyway.
As a result, I've taken the liberty of having a free sample of condom sent to him and also some literature about use.